Friday, September 10, 2010
Sunday, August 29, 2010
We Are Not Free Until We Are All Free
This blog post may challenge you at ask yourself some hard questions.
Your answers might cause your world to flip instantly (in a good way…)!
For the last 15 months, I have been trying to gather 8,000 people together to hold a single thought in consciousness in order to begin weaving an etheric template for an abundant new world.
My intention is to gather enough people together, at least once a week, to create a shift in the collective thinking of the world in order to speed up the creation of abundance and sustainable peace on the planet.
I have hosted meditations daily, weekly and monthly. I have had as many as around 100 people show up for a meditation and, on several occasions, I have been the only one there.
Last week I had over 200 people register for the mediation and only 4 showed up for the live call.
Now, I know enough to know that if people aren't showing up for my calls, it's very personal. It might not be ABOUT me personally but I am clear that there is something in my own consciousness that is not attracting what I intend to attract.
I ran through a lot of thoughts the day after the last 8,000 Meditation Event. I scrolled the the "Rolodex of Beliefs" trying to find the limiting belief that was keeping me from allowing what I wanted.
Here are some of the thoughts I came up with:
- No one is as interested in Pakistan (my theme for the last meditation) as they are in the BP/oil spill because there is no "corporate bad guy" so there isn't anyone to unify against.
- People care more about animals than they do about people.
- Unconsciously, we are biased against Muslims.
- No one cares about what I'm doing and I'm the "only one" who sees things the way I see things…(wah, wah, wah…)
- I'd rather be playing with my kids in the evenings that leading mediations for the world.
Shifting consciousness on the planet is my passion. It is part of who I am and my Life Purpose.
So, my excitement tells me that I am doing the "right" thing for me.
But, as I sat with the excitement, I noticed another spot in my consciousness that was kind of begging for attention. As I tried to hold an image of actually hosting a meditation and actually having 8,000+ people be a part of it, I noticed that, even though it was a nice thought, my mind kept flipping back to the more comfortable thoughts listed above.
On a very, very subtle level, I liked the feeling of being misunderstood, being the "only one" and trying to find someone to blame for all the suffering happening on the planet right now. (Selfish corporations, dishonest people, bad city planning and corrupt governments, etc.)
Surely it wasn't MY fault. I'm a Lightworker, right? I only think about good and happy things and if I'm blaming someone, it's only because, well, it's TRUE! Right?
But, the truth is, if we subscribe to the belief that You Create Your Own Reality (Stage Two Consciousness…see last week's blog post) or that We Co-Create Our Reality (Stage Three Consciousness), then we are responsible for everything in the world that comes into our reality and our awareness.
In other words, there is something in our collective consciousness that creates earthquakes, floods and oil spills.
Now, I'm not going to get too heavy into blame. It's not your fault and guilt is certainly going to get us no where pretty. However, as conscious beings who intend to live an abundant life and want abundance for others, we do have an obligation to be deliberate with our thinking and creating so that we can begin to choose a different experience; a different reality.
If we are intending to live in a joyful, abundant, sustainable, peaceful world, the vibrational frequency for those experiences needs to be held by all of us together.
If you want to live in an abundant world, then you have to hold the vibration of abundance.
If you want to live in a joyful world, you have to hold the vibration of joy.
If you want to live in a peaceful world, you have to hold the vibration of peace.
You get my point, I am certain.
It is our responsibility to get very, very honest with ourselves and see if there are still those quiet places in our consciousness that are holding old, familiar and, therefore, comfortable "un-"abundant energies.
Try this.
Take a deep, very conscious, very aware breath in and then out. Now try this again and simply feel in your body what joy, abundance and peace feel like. Don't think about it too much. Just breathe and feel.
Pretty easy, huh?
Now try holding those energies for 10 minutes and while you do that, notice what happens to you. Do you feel anxious or restless? Are you suddenly craving the chocolate ice cream cake in the freezer downstairs? Do you need to check your emails or your Facebook status? Where is your mind? What are you thinking about? How is your anxiety?
If you imagine that your consciousness is like a wind instrument, how long can you consistently "hold the note" of joy and abundance?
Now, just for fun, think about the oil spill in the Gulf or the challenges various relief agencies are having getting aid to Pakistan. What are your thoughts and feelings? Do you feel despair, frustrated, angry or powerless?
Naturally, we will feel these feelings first. Our emotional response helps us clarify what we want. But if we get stuck in these feelings we are only adding to the "mess" in consciousness.
In such times of rapid shifting in consciousness, we have little "wiggle room" in our thinking. We have to continue to cultivate the good habits of focusing on the world we choose to experience instead of lamenting that it isn't here yet.
The world we choose IS already here. It is up to us to shift it from its template form in consciousness to creating it in the third dimension. This can only be done by focusing on what we want.
Another subtle thing we have to be aware of is the idea that somehow, all of these events occurring outside of us to other people and in far-away places are separate from us.
If something is being perceived as a part of your reality, it IS a part of you.
When you read the news and you see an infant crying or turtle dying, because it is in your awareness, it is a part of your consciousness. It is a part of you.
I like the statement, "None of us is free until we are all free." (I could not find a good source for this quotation, so please forgive me for not notating it properly.)
The minute you perceive of a situation or someone as being separate from yourself, is the minute you give away your power to create a different outcome.
All of "it" is all of us.
And if we want to live in a world that is more abundant, healthier, sustainable, peaceful, where corporations act from integrity, where there is food, shelter, freedom, education and the conscious power to choose for everyone, then we have to take responsibility for what is drawn into our awareness and "clean" our consciousness to reflect what we desire.
The most important thing that you can do to create an abundant world, is to be abundant yourself in every way possible.
For the next few weeks, I am shifting the focus of the 8,000 Meditation Events. Instead of working on global issues, I will be hosting meditations about personal abundance. I know that when we know we are fully abundant, we are so much more powerful on a global level!
We can only lift people up to our own vibrational frequency. When we raise our own vibration, we create a greater energy to lift others up.
In addition, I will be offering a special two-hour “Tap-A-Thon” next Monday, September 6 at 8pm Eastern/7pm Central/5pm Pacific. We will be using EFT and some other belief-shifting techniques to move us all collectively towards an expanded state of abundance.
The cost for the “Tap-A-Thon” is $35.00. To register, simply click on the Paypal link below:
Love,
Karen
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
What is all this Consciousness Evolution Thing, Anyway?
T he last 20 years have been marked by, what I think, is unprecedented shifts or evolution in consciousness.
For those of you who have been on a conscious path for several years, you may remember a time when you read a new book, discovered a new healing modality or tried a new technique and thought to yourself, "I must be the only one in my neighborhood doing this…"
Maybe you tried to share these new ideas with your friends and family and they simply looked at you as if you dropped from a spaceship or another planet.
But now, especially after the movies, "The Secret", and "What the Bleep", we've expanded our understanding and our vocabulary about consciousness. (You can even buy the book, based on the movie, "The Secret" at Wal-mart!)
You're no longer the "only" one!
But as you've embraced certain core ideas like the Law of Attraction, positive thinking, meditation and healing, you've noticed that even though you can feel deeply connected and you "know what to do" to create what you want in your life, you seem to have cycles of things working and then not working.
You understand the prosperous nature of the Universe and Love, and yet, you may still be struggling in your own personal relationships and with money.
You're not screwing up!
You're not doing anything wrong!
Where you are is absolutely perfect!
You might just need some new understandings and information to help you make sense of how you are evolving and growing.
There are four stages in consciousness evolution. While we like to think linearly, the truth is all of us go back and forth through these stages of consciousness evolution and it is quite normal for you to experience several stages of consciousness simultaneously.
This is the nature of evolution.
The Four Stages:
Stage One: Your Reality Creates You
In this first stage of consciousness, we are deeply conditioned by the collective, the world around us. Our beliefs, our thoughts, our actions all flow from a belief that our creative capacity is limited to creating a reaction to the world around us.
Our creativity is in navigating our way through challenges and situations that we feel powerless to control. Who we are, what we feel, what we create is dependent on luck, fate and is all determined by a source outside of ourselves.
For most of us, our conscious evolution journey begins here. Our goal in this first phase of awareness is to begin to clear our conditioning, old patterns, thought forms and habits that keep us entrained to a powerless mentality.
Stage Two: You Create Your Own Reality
During Stage Two we begin to remember our true creative capacity. We learn that our thoughts, our emotions, our mindset, our beliefs and our expectations create our reality. Using the basic "grammar" of creation, we begin to create something new and desirable in our world.
This is the phase taught to us in the movie "The Secret". It is during Stage Two that we focus on our personal reality and move more deeply into a state of abundance consciousness. We learn to focus and control our minds and master our emotions and use both to deliberately and consciously create.
Stage Three: We Co-Create Our Reality
During Stage Three, after experimenting with deliberate creation, we begin to realize some very important things:
1. There is a greater force helping us create and sometimes things work out bigger and better than we intend. Miracles happen to us every day and we give up having to know "how" something is going to happen. We begin to take bigger leaps of faith with our creative capacity.
2. Sometimes things don't turn out at all like we intend but there seems to be a Divine Plan playing itself out. Sometimes we don't know why a creation "fails", but we begin to understand that, in spite of this, the Divine Plan is good and the results are part of something bigger than ourselves.
3. Our awareness of our creative capacity deepens and we realize that everything in our outer reality is created by us. The things in our personal reality are personal creations and the things in our global reality are a result of projections in collective consciousness. We co-create our reality with our Divine Siblings.
4. We come to realize that, as creative beings, if we don't like our collective creation, we can join together with our Divine Siblings and with intention, co-create something different.
This more expansive understanding of collective consciousness and the power to co-create, compels us to join together in the face of challenges on the planets, like earthquakes and oil spills and co-create in consciousness a different and more abundant outcome
.
Truly, this is an exciting stage for us to enter into. Just go to Facebook or any of these social media forums and see the growing quantity of opportunities for you to join with your Divine Siblings and co-create an abundant New World.
Stage Four: God Creates Reality Through You
The fourth stage marks a complete return to your natural state prior to being conditioned. It is a state that is created after all your old beliefs and conditioning is released and is maintained by three key creation tools:
1. Meditation is vital for Stage Four. Meditation, in whatever form works for you, keeps your channel to your expanded awareness and Divine Intent open and flowing.
2. Maintaining a prayerful state is also important in Stage Four. Each moment can be expressed by gratitude and an acknowledgment of Divine Order and abundant perfection.
3. A clear intention to allow the Divine to work through you helps keep your energy and attention focused on being present to the Divine working through you.
In the Fourth Stage, you realize that you are a uniquely created being and that your highest purpose in the fulfillment of the Divine Plan is to express the truth of who you are in the fullest way possible. The Self in its pure, unconditioned state is intended to serve God by manifesting its full potential into form.
Each moment in this phase is a moment in the flow. You know that you are fully supported and you simply obey the truth of the moment and your awareness if finely honed on the Now. There are no worries, no fears, no lack, only faith and complete surrender.
A sample prayer for Stage Four might be:
I am an emissary of the Divine.
I am a child of Light.
I am an unlimited aspect of the Universe.
Because G-d is abundant, I am abundant in all ways.
Because G-d is powerful, I am powerful in all ways.
Because G-d is creative, I am creative in all ways.
Because G-d is all-knowing, I am always clear.
Because G-d is omnipotent and omnipresent, I am always in the right place at the right time fulfilling my Divine Purpose.
I pray that each moment, my hands, my body, my mind, my spirit, my Light and my essence be used in the service of the Divine.
A sample intention for Stage Four might be:
I intend to joyfully allow the Divine to easily create through me each and every minute of my day.
We all bop between the different phases, but you will realize that as your consciousness evolves, you tend to spend more time in one particular phase.
In the last few months, I have seen a lot of my clients hovering between Stage Three and Four. To some of you, it may feel as if you are living in kind of an energetic "gap".
For many of us, we are so used to "manifesting" that we are unsure of what we're doing if we don't have a "plan" or a vision we are working towards.
If that has been your experience lately, I invite you to relax into just simply being and remembering that your emotions are the GPS of your soul. Simply follow what feels good and correct and you will be in the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing.
Stage Four is joyful.
Some of us find that our "missions" that we do diligently served in the first part of our lives, has fallen away and we are truly following our hearts, sometimes into experiences that our previous, "serious" selves might have deemed frivolous. The purpose of Stage Four is simply to BE abundance and to follow the passion....no guilt, no remorse, no worry and, most importantly, no martyrdom.
It is in this fullest state of expression of the Self that we serve the Divine Plan. Remember, we are hard-wired to be happy, healthy, wealthy, connected and enlivened in whatever way feels correct for each one of us individually.
My intention, here at Joyful Mission, is to help you navigate the changes that come with each stage of evolution in consciousness.
Currently, there are three classes available to help you with your own personal growth and evolution. Each of these three classes is specifically designed to work with the energies of each stage of consciousness expansion:
Prosperity Boot Camp – Helps you transition from Stage One to Stage Two. This course teaches you what I call the "grammar" of Deliberate Creation and is a building block to all stages of consciousness expansion.
Inside the Body of God – Helps you fine tune your Deliberate Creation skills so that you can move from Stage Two to Stage Three and begin to use your skills together with other people to co-create an abundant New World.
Ascension 101 – Helps you understand all four stages of consciousness and continue to move solidly into Stage Three and Four of consciousness. This class is currently only available live. A recorded version will be available by January of 2011.
I hope you'll join me for these fun, dynamic and transformative courses. Taking this courses helps you set a clear intention to stabilize and ground your evolution and your "shifting".
You also get to be in the energy of some wonderful, like-minded people!
If you attend these classes as a pre-recorded experience, I'd love to hear your feedback and your experiences. Please feel free to drop me a note and let me know what's up in your world!
I look forward to continuing to expand these offerings!
Thank you for all that you do to take your place in the Divine Order! You are truly magnificent!
Love,
Karen
Thursday, August 19, 2010
Suffering, Love and Homegrown Tomatoes
I’ve been thinking a lot about suffering recently. Not the greatest topic to swill around in your brain but I have NEEDED to figure out this weird web of self-generated pain I’ve been indulging in for the last year.
It’s been a great learning journey that came to a conclusion with a baby, two dads, a magical homegrown tomato and a lost necklace. But more about that later…
Let’s start with the fun stuff first.
I’m experiencing love.
I’m experiencing love with a lot of things and a lot of people. I’m experiencing love with my kids, my family, my friends, my work, my brain, my life and, in spite of my resistance, the father of my youngest daughter.
My relationship with this man is a weird and very personal story. But since it is my birthday and kind of the beginning of a new era for me, I’d like to share it in the hopes that it might help you find love, too.
I started seeing this man about four years ago after I issued a personal moratorium on relationships in my life. I had just gotten out of a very painful relationship that ended the way all of my relationships in the last 10 years have ended and I didn’t want to get involved with anyone.
This relationship sort of started out without a whole lot of “relating”, if you catch my drift. Until I got pregnant, very (VERY) much against the odds…
Now, I have been diligently working on manifesting my life partner since my fortieth birthday, five years ago. I have a nice list of all the qualities I’d like my life partner to have. Some of you may have heard me read it out loud in Prosperity Boot Camp (which starts next Thursday, August 27, BTW).
I wanted a metaphysical man who would sit and meditate with me, a man who shared my passion for teaching and my life mission, a man who believed in fate and soulmates…
Instead I got this incredibly brilliant, well-educated, logical, intellectual Jewish man who is 15 years older than me and doesn’t really fit many of the criteria on my list.
I am very frightened of being in a relationship with this man. He is very attractive and many women want him. He has lived long enough to have a parade of “exes” of one sort or another and, given my history in relationship, and the statements he has made about the quality of our relationship, I can’t figure out what he wants with me, other than the fact that we share a daughter. (I know, you don’t have to send me emails about the “obvious”.)
But it’s more than just that.
For all the places where we lack common ground, we also have many places where we stand solidly together, side by side. We both believe in family, are committed to our children and doing the right thing because it’s the right thing to do. We laugh a lot. We do really well playing house together and we’re both very creative. We have an incredible energy together and, at the same time, a lot of simple peace between us and we really love our daughter, Ayelet.
And he likes my writing.
And he thinks I’m a good mother.
Oh, and did I mention that he lives in Minneapolis, Minnesota and I live in Houston, Texas and we commute once a month to spend time together?
We live in separate cities because my fear drove me all the way across the country so that I could be “in control” of our relationship.
All that really happened is that my baby and I have logged an absurd amount of frequent flier miles and I spend my free time with a telephone glued to my ear.
So a big part of my suffering this year has been about being afraid to let go and love (and TRUST), feeling abandoned (even though I’m the one who left), feeling overwhelmed by parenting a baby by myself, missing my guy, feeling guilty when I leave my other children to spend time in Minneapolis (or wherever we end up traveling),feeling guilty for taking my baby away from her father, trying to explain this relationship to my friends and family who just look at me with one eyebrow raised and wondering just what DID my Higher Self have in mind with this pairing anyway????
(BTW, this is the LAST post about suffering for at least three months…new topics coming soon!)
Love scares me. I’ve had some really painful manifestations in relationships that have left me with a crook in my neck from looking back and a lot of fear that if I surrender to love, I’ll just get hurt again. So I enter into love always waiting for the “other shoe to drop”.
A few years ago, a very wise friend of mine told me that if you don’t want the “other shoe” to “drop”, stop looking for the other shoe. One of the things that I have learned recently is that if I want to stop suffering, I have to stop looking for it.
When you stop searching for evidence of something in your life and instead focus your attention on something else, “magically” we begin to see more of what we are looking for.
We are actually “hard-wired” in our bodies to only see what we condition ourselves to see. Think about this for a minute. At any given moment you are surrounded by thousands of bits of information. If you pay attention to all of it, you might go mad.
Your brain has a system call the Reticular Activating System (RAS) that programs your awareness to sort through about 250 bits of information per minute so that you are not overwhelmed by data. Did you ever notice how when you are thinking about buying a particular kind of car that you start to notice that car everywhere you go?
It’s not magic or even a “sign”. It’s simply that your RAS has programmed your awareness so that what you are thinking about is more evident in your outer world. Basically, you can program your thinking to see what you want to see and consequently even influence the kind of experience you want to have.
When I was living in Sedona a few years back, I got to spend a lot of time in my hammock under the stars. One night I got a very clear message in my head comprised of only one sentence:
It’s all Love.
And in that one moment I had this profound awareness that everything, every experience, every person, every situation, basically, all of life was an expression of love. I just had to learn to see it that way.
Marianne Williamson, author of “A Return to Love”, says, “There is no such thing as a neutral thought. Every thought takes us into love or into fear, and whichever one we choose casts out the vision of the other.”
We cannot be in love and fear simultaneously. One has to win. When we embark on an enlightened path and we begin to see the expansive, unlimited nature of the Universe, we also come to understand that love is the basic unchanging nature of life.
In the Human Design System, which I believe gives us the archetypical blueprint for the highest expression of humanity, love and life force are inextricably intertwined. Fear isn’t even a part of the map and is actually evolving out of the system as a place of awareness. (See the Solar Plexus Mutation mini-course.)
The only pain we experience in love is the pain of separation or the perception of separation. Are we really separate or do we just perceive ourselves to be, focus on it and then sit and suffer in the ever-growing gap we create in consciousness?
My friends, Paul and Layne Cutright, relationship coaches and authors of several relationship books, including “You’re Never Upset for the Reasons You Think You Are,” stated once in a teleclass I hosted, that the root cause of all conflict in a relationship is a couples desire to be closer and an inability to manifest that desire.
As with all contrast, our suffering in the perception of separation is simply our Higher Self helping us clarify that we want to be closer and in a loving space. To create more love, we simply have to shift our focus away from the places where we think we are apart from love and look at where we find closeness.
Creation is simply a matter of where you put your energy, attention and focus.
When we get stuck in fear or even panic (not-love) it’s usually because we don’t understand what is happening. Most of us, when we are caught in fear, struggle, resist or try to escape the circumstances that created the fear. We act like bugs caught in a spider web. The more we resist and struggle, the deeper we are ensnared in the web.
If we, instead, allow our response and work to see the experience from a different perspective, we can use the not-love experience as a powerful Point of Evolution that gives us the information necessary to move to a deeper experience of love.
There are many reasons why we get trapped in the web of fear. I’ll list a few but you may have your own:
1.It’s time to move on. You are done with the experience but you aren’t trusting that what is coming next is more in alignment with what you truly want to experience.
2.What you are wanting isn’t in the highest good for all, including yourself and your Higher Self is staging an “intervention”.
3.Your experiences are triggering past painful memories and you are afraid that the past will repeat itself.
4.You are focusing on what you don’t want instead of what you want.
5.You have an identity rooted in your “stuckness” and you don’t want to let it go. Maybe you don’t know who you are without pain, suffering, struggle, etc.
6.You are too tired to make the change. You’re burned out and need a break.
7.You have old beliefs that won’t allow you to believe that you can have/deserve to have/it is possible to have/feel guilty for having…
8.You forgot (temporarily) in the midst of the “earth dream” that you are a Source Being.
As I said, you may have other reasons but basically, they are all rooted in fear and not love. When we see the love, we can experience immediate healing.
Try this for a minute. Sit and breathe deeply and consciously. Let your breath fill your body and just hold the energy of the breath for a minute. As you exhale the breath, imagine that with your out-breath you are releasing all the tensions, fear, anxiety, concern, panic, or whatever may be bugging you.
Now breathe in again and as you breathe in this time, simply think about and feel love entering your body and breathing in pure love in all of its expressions and forms. Just be love.
Isn’t it interesting how such a simple experience of love can erase everything else?
I was recently at a wedding. One of the guests made a toast and compared love to the image of Adam and G-d in the Sistine Chapel, fingers reaching towards each other but not quite meeting. He stated that maybe love was the work we needed to do to actually connect and touch. I agree.
We can stand in the gap and connect and touch simply by shifting our focus. Do we spend our time noting the places where we don’t connect and lack common ground, or do we stand in the moment and savor all those places where we do connect and touch?
Your experience will depend on your answer to that question. (Hint: Life is precious and each moment can pass in heart beat. Do you really want to spend the time we have standing in “the gap”?)
Now, back to a tale of a baby, two dads, a magical homegrown tomato and a lost necklace…
When I was in New York a few days ago, I was traveling in the backseat of a rental car trying to keep my very active toddler happy at the end of a long road trip. I was wearing a necklace my father had given me when I was eight-years-old that was very dear to me. I took off the necklace and gave it to Ayelet to play with. She dropped it and it slid to the floor, or so I thought.
In the morning when I went to the car to look for the necklace, it was nowhere to be found. Her Dad and I tore the car and her car seat apart looking for it but it was gone.
When I was growing up, my Dad traveled a lot and I really, really missed him. He always brought me back a souvenir from his travels, usually a piece of jewelry. I have several pieces stored away to give to my daughters when they get older.
But this particular necklace is my favorite and when I wear it, I always remember how much I missed my Dad when I was little. When I lost it, I realized that maybe it was time to release the memory of always missing my Dad and I adjusted myself emotionally and let it go.
A few days later, after traveling with the car seat from Newark to Houston and putting it in two different cars, I was leaning over to put Ayelet in her seat when, seemingly out of nowhere, my necklace “dropped” into my hand. I was thrilled but kind of confounded at where the darn thing had been hiding itself.
In my meditation that evening, I got a clear message that instead of wearing it as a symbol of my missing my Dad, that I needed to see it as a token of my father’s love for me and I imagined him in the port city of Basra in Iraq picking out a special trinket for me. (BTW, he is still delighted when he sees me wear it.) It is time to release the old memories of separation and remember the love.
(One Dad down, one Dad to go.)
Now for the Magical Homegrown Tomato…Last week, Ayelet and I were outside enjoying our beautiful, tropical backyard in Houston. After roaming around the back of the garden, Ayelet brought me a warm, beautiful, sun-ripened, homegrown tomato.
Now, this isn’t such a big deal except that we have no tomato plants in our backyard and neither do our neighbors. I was, again, confounded about the appearance of something out of
“thin air”.
Later that evening, when I was talking to her Dad on the phone, he mentioned that he had picked the first ripe tomato of the season from his backyard in Minneapolis. We joked that maybe Ayelet had found a portal to her Dad’s backyard…
Now, I am certain that there is some kind of logical explanation for the reappearance of my necklace and the magical tomato. But I’ve decided to let go of my need to know…
Instead, I prefer to think that the power of remembering love vs. separation brought my necklace back to me and that the strength of a little girl’s love for her Dad (and his love for her) was powerful enough for her to blast through the time-space continuum and go tomato picking with her Daddy on a warm, beautiful summer afternoon.
Today is my birthday. Today I commit to a year of finding the love in everything.
I hope you’ll join me!
Love,
Karen
P.S. At the end of my time with Ayelet and her Dad, I made a little stack of stones, three stones representing each of us, and at the base I placed a perfect heart-shaped rock. I thought about taking a photo to mark the moment but I realized that the moment was, like all moments, temporary and profound because of its fleeting, impermanent nature.
My intention is that this “note” will remind you to see all the love that surrounds you, too! And That you won’t waste a minute getting after it! Hop to it! Love in all of its unique and amazing expressions is waaaaay more fun than suffering…
It’s been a great learning journey that came to a conclusion with a baby, two dads, a magical homegrown tomato and a lost necklace. But more about that later…
Let’s start with the fun stuff first.
I’m experiencing love.
I’m experiencing love with a lot of things and a lot of people. I’m experiencing love with my kids, my family, my friends, my work, my brain, my life and, in spite of my resistance, the father of my youngest daughter.
My relationship with this man is a weird and very personal story. But since it is my birthday and kind of the beginning of a new era for me, I’d like to share it in the hopes that it might help you find love, too.
I started seeing this man about four years ago after I issued a personal moratorium on relationships in my life. I had just gotten out of a very painful relationship that ended the way all of my relationships in the last 10 years have ended and I didn’t want to get involved with anyone.
This relationship sort of started out without a whole lot of “relating”, if you catch my drift. Until I got pregnant, very (VERY) much against the odds…
Now, I have been diligently working on manifesting my life partner since my fortieth birthday, five years ago. I have a nice list of all the qualities I’d like my life partner to have. Some of you may have heard me read it out loud in Prosperity Boot Camp (which starts next Thursday, August 27, BTW).
I wanted a metaphysical man who would sit and meditate with me, a man who shared my passion for teaching and my life mission, a man who believed in fate and soulmates…
Instead I got this incredibly brilliant, well-educated, logical, intellectual Jewish man who is 15 years older than me and doesn’t really fit many of the criteria on my list.
I am very frightened of being in a relationship with this man. He is very attractive and many women want him. He has lived long enough to have a parade of “exes” of one sort or another and, given my history in relationship, and the statements he has made about the quality of our relationship, I can’t figure out what he wants with me, other than the fact that we share a daughter. (I know, you don’t have to send me emails about the “obvious”.)
But it’s more than just that.
For all the places where we lack common ground, we also have many places where we stand solidly together, side by side. We both believe in family, are committed to our children and doing the right thing because it’s the right thing to do. We laugh a lot. We do really well playing house together and we’re both very creative. We have an incredible energy together and, at the same time, a lot of simple peace between us and we really love our daughter, Ayelet.
And he likes my writing.
And he thinks I’m a good mother.
Oh, and did I mention that he lives in Minneapolis, Minnesota and I live in Houston, Texas and we commute once a month to spend time together?
We live in separate cities because my fear drove me all the way across the country so that I could be “in control” of our relationship.
All that really happened is that my baby and I have logged an absurd amount of frequent flier miles and I spend my free time with a telephone glued to my ear.
So a big part of my suffering this year has been about being afraid to let go and love (and TRUST), feeling abandoned (even though I’m the one who left), feeling overwhelmed by parenting a baby by myself, missing my guy, feeling guilty when I leave my other children to spend time in Minneapolis (or wherever we end up traveling),feeling guilty for taking my baby away from her father, trying to explain this relationship to my friends and family who just look at me with one eyebrow raised and wondering just what DID my Higher Self have in mind with this pairing anyway????
(BTW, this is the LAST post about suffering for at least three months…new topics coming soon!)
Love scares me. I’ve had some really painful manifestations in relationships that have left me with a crook in my neck from looking back and a lot of fear that if I surrender to love, I’ll just get hurt again. So I enter into love always waiting for the “other shoe to drop”.
A few years ago, a very wise friend of mine told me that if you don’t want the “other shoe” to “drop”, stop looking for the other shoe. One of the things that I have learned recently is that if I want to stop suffering, I have to stop looking for it.
When you stop searching for evidence of something in your life and instead focus your attention on something else, “magically” we begin to see more of what we are looking for.
We are actually “hard-wired” in our bodies to only see what we condition ourselves to see. Think about this for a minute. At any given moment you are surrounded by thousands of bits of information. If you pay attention to all of it, you might go mad.
Your brain has a system call the Reticular Activating System (RAS) that programs your awareness to sort through about 250 bits of information per minute so that you are not overwhelmed by data. Did you ever notice how when you are thinking about buying a particular kind of car that you start to notice that car everywhere you go?
It’s not magic or even a “sign”. It’s simply that your RAS has programmed your awareness so that what you are thinking about is more evident in your outer world. Basically, you can program your thinking to see what you want to see and consequently even influence the kind of experience you want to have.
When I was living in Sedona a few years back, I got to spend a lot of time in my hammock under the stars. One night I got a very clear message in my head comprised of only one sentence:
It’s all Love.
And in that one moment I had this profound awareness that everything, every experience, every person, every situation, basically, all of life was an expression of love. I just had to learn to see it that way.
Marianne Williamson, author of “A Return to Love”, says, “There is no such thing as a neutral thought. Every thought takes us into love or into fear, and whichever one we choose casts out the vision of the other.”
We cannot be in love and fear simultaneously. One has to win. When we embark on an enlightened path and we begin to see the expansive, unlimited nature of the Universe, we also come to understand that love is the basic unchanging nature of life.
In the Human Design System, which I believe gives us the archetypical blueprint for the highest expression of humanity, love and life force are inextricably intertwined. Fear isn’t even a part of the map and is actually evolving out of the system as a place of awareness. (See the Solar Plexus Mutation mini-course.)
The only pain we experience in love is the pain of separation or the perception of separation. Are we really separate or do we just perceive ourselves to be, focus on it and then sit and suffer in the ever-growing gap we create in consciousness?
My friends, Paul and Layne Cutright, relationship coaches and authors of several relationship books, including “You’re Never Upset for the Reasons You Think You Are,” stated once in a teleclass I hosted, that the root cause of all conflict in a relationship is a couples desire to be closer and an inability to manifest that desire.
As with all contrast, our suffering in the perception of separation is simply our Higher Self helping us clarify that we want to be closer and in a loving space. To create more love, we simply have to shift our focus away from the places where we think we are apart from love and look at where we find closeness.
Creation is simply a matter of where you put your energy, attention and focus.
When we get stuck in fear or even panic (not-love) it’s usually because we don’t understand what is happening. Most of us, when we are caught in fear, struggle, resist or try to escape the circumstances that created the fear. We act like bugs caught in a spider web. The more we resist and struggle, the deeper we are ensnared in the web.
If we, instead, allow our response and work to see the experience from a different perspective, we can use the not-love experience as a powerful Point of Evolution that gives us the information necessary to move to a deeper experience of love.
There are many reasons why we get trapped in the web of fear. I’ll list a few but you may have your own:
1.It’s time to move on. You are done with the experience but you aren’t trusting that what is coming next is more in alignment with what you truly want to experience.
2.What you are wanting isn’t in the highest good for all, including yourself and your Higher Self is staging an “intervention”.
3.Your experiences are triggering past painful memories and you are afraid that the past will repeat itself.
4.You are focusing on what you don’t want instead of what you want.
5.You have an identity rooted in your “stuckness” and you don’t want to let it go. Maybe you don’t know who you are without pain, suffering, struggle, etc.
6.You are too tired to make the change. You’re burned out and need a break.
7.You have old beliefs that won’t allow you to believe that you can have/deserve to have/it is possible to have/feel guilty for having…
8.You forgot (temporarily) in the midst of the “earth dream” that you are a Source Being.
As I said, you may have other reasons but basically, they are all rooted in fear and not love. When we see the love, we can experience immediate healing.
Try this for a minute. Sit and breathe deeply and consciously. Let your breath fill your body and just hold the energy of the breath for a minute. As you exhale the breath, imagine that with your out-breath you are releasing all the tensions, fear, anxiety, concern, panic, or whatever may be bugging you.
Now breathe in again and as you breathe in this time, simply think about and feel love entering your body and breathing in pure love in all of its expressions and forms. Just be love.
Isn’t it interesting how such a simple experience of love can erase everything else?
I was recently at a wedding. One of the guests made a toast and compared love to the image of Adam and G-d in the Sistine Chapel, fingers reaching towards each other but not quite meeting. He stated that maybe love was the work we needed to do to actually connect and touch. I agree.
We can stand in the gap and connect and touch simply by shifting our focus. Do we spend our time noting the places where we don’t connect and lack common ground, or do we stand in the moment and savor all those places where we do connect and touch?
Your experience will depend on your answer to that question. (Hint: Life is precious and each moment can pass in heart beat. Do you really want to spend the time we have standing in “the gap”?)
Now, back to a tale of a baby, two dads, a magical homegrown tomato and a lost necklace…
When I was in New York a few days ago, I was traveling in the backseat of a rental car trying to keep my very active toddler happy at the end of a long road trip. I was wearing a necklace my father had given me when I was eight-years-old that was very dear to me. I took off the necklace and gave it to Ayelet to play with. She dropped it and it slid to the floor, or so I thought.
In the morning when I went to the car to look for the necklace, it was nowhere to be found. Her Dad and I tore the car and her car seat apart looking for it but it was gone.
When I was growing up, my Dad traveled a lot and I really, really missed him. He always brought me back a souvenir from his travels, usually a piece of jewelry. I have several pieces stored away to give to my daughters when they get older.
But this particular necklace is my favorite and when I wear it, I always remember how much I missed my Dad when I was little. When I lost it, I realized that maybe it was time to release the memory of always missing my Dad and I adjusted myself emotionally and let it go.
A few days later, after traveling with the car seat from Newark to Houston and putting it in two different cars, I was leaning over to put Ayelet in her seat when, seemingly out of nowhere, my necklace “dropped” into my hand. I was thrilled but kind of confounded at where the darn thing had been hiding itself.
In my meditation that evening, I got a clear message that instead of wearing it as a symbol of my missing my Dad, that I needed to see it as a token of my father’s love for me and I imagined him in the port city of Basra in Iraq picking out a special trinket for me. (BTW, he is still delighted when he sees me wear it.) It is time to release the old memories of separation and remember the love.
(One Dad down, one Dad to go.)
Now for the Magical Homegrown Tomato…Last week, Ayelet and I were outside enjoying our beautiful, tropical backyard in Houston. After roaming around the back of the garden, Ayelet brought me a warm, beautiful, sun-ripened, homegrown tomato.
Now, this isn’t such a big deal except that we have no tomato plants in our backyard and neither do our neighbors. I was, again, confounded about the appearance of something out of
“thin air”.
Later that evening, when I was talking to her Dad on the phone, he mentioned that he had picked the first ripe tomato of the season from his backyard in Minneapolis. We joked that maybe Ayelet had found a portal to her Dad’s backyard…
Now, I am certain that there is some kind of logical explanation for the reappearance of my necklace and the magical tomato. But I’ve decided to let go of my need to know…
Instead, I prefer to think that the power of remembering love vs. separation brought my necklace back to me and that the strength of a little girl’s love for her Dad (and his love for her) was powerful enough for her to blast through the time-space continuum and go tomato picking with her Daddy on a warm, beautiful summer afternoon.
Today is my birthday. Today I commit to a year of finding the love in everything.
I hope you’ll join me!
Love,
Karen
P.S. At the end of my time with Ayelet and her Dad, I made a little stack of stones, three stones representing each of us, and at the base I placed a perfect heart-shaped rock. I thought about taking a photo to mark the moment but I realized that the moment was, like all moments, temporary and profound because of its fleeting, impermanent nature.
My intention is that this “note” will remind you to see all the love that surrounds you, too! And That you won’t waste a minute getting after it! Hop to it! Love in all of its unique and amazing expressions is waaaaay more fun than suffering…
Sunday, May 9, 2010
Happy Mother's Day
Happy Mother’s Day!
Motherhood has been the most incredible journey I have taken in this lifetime. My children have been my greatest teachers, my biggest joys and ultimately, as they stand on the edge of the “nest”, my best friends.
I wonder how I got so lucky?
(It’s okay. I actually figured out the logistics of it…no need to send me emails ;-)
As a new mother for the fifth time at the ripe young age of 44, I am enjoying have a baby more than I ever did when my other kids were small.
It’s not that I didn’t enjoy the others. I did very much. But my mothering abilities have been forged in the fires of experience and I’m wiser (hopefully), more relaxed and better at seeing the big picture.
Last year my oldest son went off to college. My oldest daughter is on the cusp of leaving home, too. I have begun another phase in my parenting and the emotions surrounding this part of parenting is quite surprising.
Truthfully, I grieved when Keegan, my oldest, left home. I missed his ever-constant gentle demeanor and his sunny smile. Those Who Were Left Behind were weird without him. For several months it was as if my family has an un-fill-able hole in it. We had to redefine who we were without him.
And he was lonely without us (and his friends from High School), too.
This semester has been a different experience for him, though. He is taking exciting classes, working behind the camera at a TV studio, writing, creating and very much beginning to live his dream life.
Keegan was always an unusual kid. This was a child who informed me at the sweet age of two years that when he grew up, he was going to be a filmmaker.
Now he is solidly on his path and when I hear the thrill of excitement in his voice, it awakens in me something new as a mother. I see him truly begin to take flight with his life and there is this deep tickle and rush of huge love in my solar plexus that delights at witnessing the final stages of his rapidly departing childhood.
Complete joy and awe at who he is becoming has replaced grief and I can hardly say his name without gushing…almost like it was when he was newborn.
Soon my daughter and then a son, another daughter and eventually my baby will hopefully begin to take their fledgling flights. I hope that I am lucky enough to witness these launches!
I have been a very lucky woman all of my life. I was mothered by a mother who believed fiercely in Family. We grew up in unusual places and my mother had to create an oasis of safety and “home” in the midst of foreign cities and environments, oftentimes on her own while my Dad traveled for work.
She did her job very well. Truly, in my world, home was where the Mom was. The location may have changed periodically but the Mom was consistent.
I am certain that even my more challenging children are “easy” compared to me as a child.
There have been tales told that I was often frustrated, full of questions and never quite “normal” as a kid.
All of the above is probably true.
In spite of this, my Mother believed in me. There were many times when my Mother and I clashed and I suspect she secretly longed for a “normal” child (actually, sometimes she wished that out loud…), but no matter what transpired, my Mother always knew there was greatness inside of me.
She still thinks this is true.
With my new understandings of “The Big Picture”, I now know that the frustrations my Mother experienced were a direct result of her knowing what was possible for me and her witnessing my circuitous route to my greatness.
I am sure she had many sleepless nights wondering just what the heck was going on in my life…
Probably, I’ve even given her a few of those wakeful nights as recent as…well…last week!
The “normal” life has never had much appeal for me…
I am who I am today because my Mother saw greatness in me. Her belief in me fostered that same belief in myself. That deeper awareness of my unlimited Divine Potential that she instilled in me with her Mother-Love is the strength that I have drawn on when I have stumbled and fallen in my life.
Her love has given me the courage to move forward, even when the prospects were grim or seemed hopeless.
From my Mother I learned Dedication and Commitment, and the importance of rhythm and consistency.
And staying dry when it’s raining and always making sure you pack a little extra food, just in case…
Thank you, Mama, for the 44 years of greatness you have seen in me.
I promise, I’ll keep working on it!
Love,
Karen
Motherhood has been the most incredible journey I have taken in this lifetime. My children have been my greatest teachers, my biggest joys and ultimately, as they stand on the edge of the “nest”, my best friends.
I wonder how I got so lucky?
(It’s okay. I actually figured out the logistics of it…no need to send me emails ;-)
As a new mother for the fifth time at the ripe young age of 44, I am enjoying have a baby more than I ever did when my other kids were small.
It’s not that I didn’t enjoy the others. I did very much. But my mothering abilities have been forged in the fires of experience and I’m wiser (hopefully), more relaxed and better at seeing the big picture.
Last year my oldest son went off to college. My oldest daughter is on the cusp of leaving home, too. I have begun another phase in my parenting and the emotions surrounding this part of parenting is quite surprising.
Truthfully, I grieved when Keegan, my oldest, left home. I missed his ever-constant gentle demeanor and his sunny smile. Those Who Were Left Behind were weird without him. For several months it was as if my family has an un-fill-able hole in it. We had to redefine who we were without him.
And he was lonely without us (and his friends from High School), too.
This semester has been a different experience for him, though. He is taking exciting classes, working behind the camera at a TV studio, writing, creating and very much beginning to live his dream life.
Keegan was always an unusual kid. This was a child who informed me at the sweet age of two years that when he grew up, he was going to be a filmmaker.
Now he is solidly on his path and when I hear the thrill of excitement in his voice, it awakens in me something new as a mother. I see him truly begin to take flight with his life and there is this deep tickle and rush of huge love in my solar plexus that delights at witnessing the final stages of his rapidly departing childhood.
Complete joy and awe at who he is becoming has replaced grief and I can hardly say his name without gushing…almost like it was when he was newborn.
Soon my daughter and then a son, another daughter and eventually my baby will hopefully begin to take their fledgling flights. I hope that I am lucky enough to witness these launches!
I have been a very lucky woman all of my life. I was mothered by a mother who believed fiercely in Family. We grew up in unusual places and my mother had to create an oasis of safety and “home” in the midst of foreign cities and environments, oftentimes on her own while my Dad traveled for work.
She did her job very well. Truly, in my world, home was where the Mom was. The location may have changed periodically but the Mom was consistent.
I am certain that even my more challenging children are “easy” compared to me as a child.
There have been tales told that I was often frustrated, full of questions and never quite “normal” as a kid.
All of the above is probably true.
In spite of this, my Mother believed in me. There were many times when my Mother and I clashed and I suspect she secretly longed for a “normal” child (actually, sometimes she wished that out loud…), but no matter what transpired, my Mother always knew there was greatness inside of me.
She still thinks this is true.
With my new understandings of “The Big Picture”, I now know that the frustrations my Mother experienced were a direct result of her knowing what was possible for me and her witnessing my circuitous route to my greatness.
I am sure she had many sleepless nights wondering just what the heck was going on in my life…
Probably, I’ve even given her a few of those wakeful nights as recent as…well…last week!
The “normal” life has never had much appeal for me…
I am who I am today because my Mother saw greatness in me. Her belief in me fostered that same belief in myself. That deeper awareness of my unlimited Divine Potential that she instilled in me with her Mother-Love is the strength that I have drawn on when I have stumbled and fallen in my life.
Her love has given me the courage to move forward, even when the prospects were grim or seemed hopeless.
From my Mother I learned Dedication and Commitment, and the importance of rhythm and consistency.
And staying dry when it’s raining and always making sure you pack a little extra food, just in case…
Thank you, Mama, for the 44 years of greatness you have seen in me.
I promise, I’ll keep working on it!
Love,
Karen
Saturday, May 1, 2010
"Curving Back on Myself, I Create Again and Again" - Bhagavad Gita
The experience of being alive is quite an adventure!
When I first started learning about deliberate creation and the power of consciousness, I was 28 years old. (I’m now almost 45, so you do the math.)
In the beginning, deliberate creation seemed simple. We visualized. We affirmed. We meditated and thought positively with pretty good results.
Lately I’ve been hearing a lot of teaching about how hard it is to change and how conscious evolution and deliberate creation can create chaos and “shifting” and “processing.”
I have read a lot of writing recently about “The Shift” and evolution towards 2012. Many teachers are sharing information about ascension patterns and speak to challenges associated with deliberate expansion in consciousness.
I agree with some of what I’ve read. When we begin to live a deliberate life, our Higher Selves call forth energies that create experiences that help us clarify where we may carry limiting beliefs that keep us from embracing fully the manifestation of our natural state of Abundance.
This experience isn’t a “test”. It is simply artifacts in consciousness that are being brought to your awareness to help you see what you need to correct in order to fully live as Source.
Sometimes the experience feels extreme or exaggerated, but it has to be to get your attention. (At least that seems true for me.)
But, does it really have to be as hard as we seem to be making it? When you first started learning about deliberate creation, did it really seem so difficult?
The Universe vibrates, down to its tiniest particle. We are composed of the same “stuff” as the Universe and we, too, vibrate.
As vibrational beings, it is natural for us to have what I will loosely call “good” experiences or “bad” experiences. (I personally believe that they are all good, but for clarification’s sake, I am labeling them as good and bad.)
(I’m not going to get too much into the nature of the ups and downs of vibrating. If you’d like to learn more, please read my book, “Inside the Body of God” or download my free e-book, “Notes From the Edge”.)
In other words, you’re always going to have rough patches in your life. If you don’t, you’re not growing and evolving.
The trick is learning to navigate these rough patches and avoid identifying with them so deeply that you get stuck.
Okay. So bear with me here. I’m going to get a little preachy. Please know I am coming from a place of deep love and a desire to support. And certainly, I am also coming from my own personal experience of challenge and struggle.
When things get dicey in our lives, it can feel challenging to apply the basic rules of deliberate creation. Our natural tendency is to want to make is complex and complicated. We look for reasons that we are stuck and feeling thwarted in our quest for a “good” life.
I have watched my clients...and, of course, myself...look for past life trauma, subconscious beliefs from old childhood wounds, genetically conditioned patterns, etc., etc., etc.
Lately I’ve been thinking about the statement, “Curving back upon myself, I create again and again” from the Bhagavad Gita.
The “stuff” of the Universe is, well, universal. It’s all made of the same components. The stars and us, birds, rocks, air, water, even light, are all composed of the same basic building blocks at a sub-atomic level.
Creation, because the Universe is dynamic, is never permanent. It changes and, eventually, reverts back to its original form and then is used again in another creation.
The Universe is like a giant Etch-A-Sketch. Shake it and you get a new picture. If you don’t like the picture, shake it again.
As creative beings in physical form, we have control over the buttons on the Etch-A-Sketch. We can shake it, too, and destroy a creation that no longer fits and create something new.
The creation process is pretty simple, although as we all know, not always easy. I think we may be making this whole evolution/ascension process way more complicated than it needs to be
It takes a lot of deliberate practice, discipline and consistency to develop good creative habits. And, like all habits, it takes time and practice to make them a natural part of your life experience.
I’d like to take the statement, “curving back on myself, I create again and again” and break it into two parts.
Let’s talk about the first part: “curving back on myself.”
What does it mean to curve back on yourself?
We are Source beings. We are individuated aspects and representatives of the Divine. You could say that we are holographic representations of the Divine. As beings composed of Universal “stuff”, contained within us are aspects of the entire Cosmos on a sub-atomic level.
But, as humans, sometimes we forget our Divine Heritage. We think we’re stuck in this dense 3-D form, hapless victims of our conditioning, our lives and even our DNA.
But we’re not stuck.
In fact, the science of epigenetics is showing us that we can even change our DNA structure when we make different choices. We are not locked into any condition of life. We can create any situation we choose.
The only thing keeping us stuck is our thinking and our perception of being separate from Source.
Curving back on yourself, to me, means creating a regular habit to connect with the Source within you. Now, as you may know, I’m not a big stickler for rules so I’m not going to say how you need to do that. Find what works for you.
For me, curving back on myself is done by meditation every day. It is during meditation that I can connect with the deeper, infinite aspect of myself that gives me direction for what I truly want to create.
Connecting with Source gives me conscious power over the Etch-a-Sketch buttons of my life.
If you are to act as a Source Being and regularly call on your Source capacity to create, you have to be able to hear and connect with Source within you.
Think about this. If you are a deep sea creature who lives miles under the ocean and has never seen light or breathed air and you want to communicate with a seagull flying over the ocean, you have no way of connecting with each other, right?
When you don’t have an established line of communication to Source within you, it’s easy to feel lost, disconnected or out of control of your life.
If you want to connect with the Source You and draw on your Universal creative power, you have to be able to communicate with that aspect of yourself. You can’t do that if you aren’t in some way connecting on a regular basis and establishing a line of communication.
Let’s look at the second part of the statement, “I create again and again.”
We are never locked in a stagnant state of creation. All things that are created can, and eventually, will be destroyed. Change is constant.
As Source Beings, when we create and our creation no longer serves, we can simply shake the Etch-a-Sketch of our lives and create again. And again. And again. And again.
There are no situations that you are stuck in.
There are no creations that you cannot change, no matter how impossible it may feel to change it.
As we navigate the challenges that life brings to us, (or truthfully, that we bring to ourselves to further our own evolution) it is crucial that we remember to stick to the basics of deliberate creation.
Deliberate Creation is simply the grammar of the Universe.
While it is easy to get lost in the despair, to wonder “why”, to justify and find archaic patterns and to worry about the possible scary shifts on the planet, we must navigate our way through these changes by diligently and deliberately applying the creative principles that we have been mastering for the last few years.
We have total control over how we choose to experience our reality. We cannot afford, especially at this time, to get lost in mental machinations about how or what is going on. While thinking is a fun sport, now is the time to put “pedal to the metal” and ask ourselves, what do we want to be creating? What direction feels good?
And, once we curve back upon ourselves, connect with the Source within us and discover the answers, we have to apply creation principles and begin drawing the reality we choose.
Here are some basic principles to review. Gently ask yourself if you are consciously and deliberately applying these concepts on a daily basis.
1. Connect with the Source within you regularly in a way that works for you.
2. Clearly ask for what you want.
3. Stay focused on the fact that an elegant, even miraculous solution is always available to any and every situation, desire or challenge you may be facing.
4. Stay in a perpetual state of gratitude and appreciation. Find evidence that what you intend is already showing up in your life, even if it’s teeny tiny.
5. Stay focused on the present moment.
6. When old thoughts or beliefs come up, deal with them and then refocus on creating, not healing. You are already healed.
7. Follow what feels good to you.
8. Use challenges as pushing off points to help you get clarity. Don’t define yourself by what you have survived. You are here to thrive, not survive.
9. Stay in the creative flow by giving and serving others. Nothing, I mean, absolutely nothing feels better than helping others.
10. Know that all situations will pass. It’s the Law.
May you enjoy this glorious co-creation of life on this planet!
Keep it simple!
Love,
Karen
When I first started learning about deliberate creation and the power of consciousness, I was 28 years old. (I’m now almost 45, so you do the math.)
In the beginning, deliberate creation seemed simple. We visualized. We affirmed. We meditated and thought positively with pretty good results.
Lately I’ve been hearing a lot of teaching about how hard it is to change and how conscious evolution and deliberate creation can create chaos and “shifting” and “processing.”
I have read a lot of writing recently about “The Shift” and evolution towards 2012. Many teachers are sharing information about ascension patterns and speak to challenges associated with deliberate expansion in consciousness.
I agree with some of what I’ve read. When we begin to live a deliberate life, our Higher Selves call forth energies that create experiences that help us clarify where we may carry limiting beliefs that keep us from embracing fully the manifestation of our natural state of Abundance.
This experience isn’t a “test”. It is simply artifacts in consciousness that are being brought to your awareness to help you see what you need to correct in order to fully live as Source.
Sometimes the experience feels extreme or exaggerated, but it has to be to get your attention. (At least that seems true for me.)
But, does it really have to be as hard as we seem to be making it? When you first started learning about deliberate creation, did it really seem so difficult?
The Universe vibrates, down to its tiniest particle. We are composed of the same “stuff” as the Universe and we, too, vibrate.
As vibrational beings, it is natural for us to have what I will loosely call “good” experiences or “bad” experiences. (I personally believe that they are all good, but for clarification’s sake, I am labeling them as good and bad.)
(I’m not going to get too much into the nature of the ups and downs of vibrating. If you’d like to learn more, please read my book, “Inside the Body of God” or download my free e-book, “Notes From the Edge”.)
In other words, you’re always going to have rough patches in your life. If you don’t, you’re not growing and evolving.
The trick is learning to navigate these rough patches and avoid identifying with them so deeply that you get stuck.
Okay. So bear with me here. I’m going to get a little preachy. Please know I am coming from a place of deep love and a desire to support. And certainly, I am also coming from my own personal experience of challenge and struggle.
When things get dicey in our lives, it can feel challenging to apply the basic rules of deliberate creation. Our natural tendency is to want to make is complex and complicated. We look for reasons that we are stuck and feeling thwarted in our quest for a “good” life.
I have watched my clients...and, of course, myself...look for past life trauma, subconscious beliefs from old childhood wounds, genetically conditioned patterns, etc., etc., etc.
Lately I’ve been thinking about the statement, “Curving back upon myself, I create again and again” from the Bhagavad Gita.
The “stuff” of the Universe is, well, universal. It’s all made of the same components. The stars and us, birds, rocks, air, water, even light, are all composed of the same basic building blocks at a sub-atomic level.
Creation, because the Universe is dynamic, is never permanent. It changes and, eventually, reverts back to its original form and then is used again in another creation.
The Universe is like a giant Etch-A-Sketch. Shake it and you get a new picture. If you don’t like the picture, shake it again.
As creative beings in physical form, we have control over the buttons on the Etch-A-Sketch. We can shake it, too, and destroy a creation that no longer fits and create something new.
The creation process is pretty simple, although as we all know, not always easy. I think we may be making this whole evolution/ascension process way more complicated than it needs to be
It takes a lot of deliberate practice, discipline and consistency to develop good creative habits. And, like all habits, it takes time and practice to make them a natural part of your life experience.
I’d like to take the statement, “curving back on myself, I create again and again” and break it into two parts.
Let’s talk about the first part: “curving back on myself.”
What does it mean to curve back on yourself?
We are Source beings. We are individuated aspects and representatives of the Divine. You could say that we are holographic representations of the Divine. As beings composed of Universal “stuff”, contained within us are aspects of the entire Cosmos on a sub-atomic level.
But, as humans, sometimes we forget our Divine Heritage. We think we’re stuck in this dense 3-D form, hapless victims of our conditioning, our lives and even our DNA.
But we’re not stuck.
In fact, the science of epigenetics is showing us that we can even change our DNA structure when we make different choices. We are not locked into any condition of life. We can create any situation we choose.
The only thing keeping us stuck is our thinking and our perception of being separate from Source.
Curving back on yourself, to me, means creating a regular habit to connect with the Source within you. Now, as you may know, I’m not a big stickler for rules so I’m not going to say how you need to do that. Find what works for you.
For me, curving back on myself is done by meditation every day. It is during meditation that I can connect with the deeper, infinite aspect of myself that gives me direction for what I truly want to create.
Connecting with Source gives me conscious power over the Etch-a-Sketch buttons of my life.
If you are to act as a Source Being and regularly call on your Source capacity to create, you have to be able to hear and connect with Source within you.
Think about this. If you are a deep sea creature who lives miles under the ocean and has never seen light or breathed air and you want to communicate with a seagull flying over the ocean, you have no way of connecting with each other, right?
When you don’t have an established line of communication to Source within you, it’s easy to feel lost, disconnected or out of control of your life.
If you want to connect with the Source You and draw on your Universal creative power, you have to be able to communicate with that aspect of yourself. You can’t do that if you aren’t in some way connecting on a regular basis and establishing a line of communication.
Let’s look at the second part of the statement, “I create again and again.”
We are never locked in a stagnant state of creation. All things that are created can, and eventually, will be destroyed. Change is constant.
As Source Beings, when we create and our creation no longer serves, we can simply shake the Etch-a-Sketch of our lives and create again. And again. And again. And again.
There are no situations that you are stuck in.
There are no creations that you cannot change, no matter how impossible it may feel to change it.
As we navigate the challenges that life brings to us, (or truthfully, that we bring to ourselves to further our own evolution) it is crucial that we remember to stick to the basics of deliberate creation.
Deliberate Creation is simply the grammar of the Universe.
While it is easy to get lost in the despair, to wonder “why”, to justify and find archaic patterns and to worry about the possible scary shifts on the planet, we must navigate our way through these changes by diligently and deliberately applying the creative principles that we have been mastering for the last few years.
We have total control over how we choose to experience our reality. We cannot afford, especially at this time, to get lost in mental machinations about how or what is going on. While thinking is a fun sport, now is the time to put “pedal to the metal” and ask ourselves, what do we want to be creating? What direction feels good?
And, once we curve back upon ourselves, connect with the Source within us and discover the answers, we have to apply creation principles and begin drawing the reality we choose.
Here are some basic principles to review. Gently ask yourself if you are consciously and deliberately applying these concepts on a daily basis.
1. Connect with the Source within you regularly in a way that works for you.
2. Clearly ask for what you want.
3. Stay focused on the fact that an elegant, even miraculous solution is always available to any and every situation, desire or challenge you may be facing.
4. Stay in a perpetual state of gratitude and appreciation. Find evidence that what you intend is already showing up in your life, even if it’s teeny tiny.
5. Stay focused on the present moment.
6. When old thoughts or beliefs come up, deal with them and then refocus on creating, not healing. You are already healed.
7. Follow what feels good to you.
8. Use challenges as pushing off points to help you get clarity. Don’t define yourself by what you have survived. You are here to thrive, not survive.
9. Stay in the creative flow by giving and serving others. Nothing, I mean, absolutely nothing feels better than helping others.
10. Know that all situations will pass. It’s the Law.
May you enjoy this glorious co-creation of life on this planet!
Keep it simple!
Love,
Karen
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