I’m Jewish. As a Jew, I am in the midst of what we call The Days of Awe, the time from the holidays Rosh Hashanah to Yom Kippur.
During this time, we focus on repentance, deep self-inquiry and atoning for mistakes we’ve made during the year.
Now, I know that even though this doesn’t really sound like so much fun, I actually enjoy this time of year. There is something to be said for dedicating 10 days to looking back, taking stock and remembering Source.
I like to think of these days as one big Reset Button. Push the Resent Button, start over, new possibilities, new opportunities and a chance to improve and “get it right’.
Obviously, this time is about asking others to forgive you for any wrong-doings you may have committed or regrets you may have in how you’ve treated people.
But it’s also a time of “unbinding” yourself from your stories, old thoughts and beliefs and, most importantly, victim consciousness. To me, this is the real definition of forgiveness.
There is a real danger in playing with the concept of forgiveness. Forgiveness can be tricky.
I know forgiveness is a crucial piece to spiritual growth and evolution. Many
of us have done all kinds of forgiveness exercises. I personally have written at least 20,000 forgiveness letters to various people who have victimized me in my 45 years…(okay, I exaggerate a bit…but you get my drift.)
One of my publishing clients, Pat Rainville, author of Forgiveness is an Act of Power, (Empoweringbydesign.com) says that one of the dangers of forgiveness is that we think that by forgiving someone we make their actions “okay”.
This style of “turn the other cheek” forgiveness is dangerous in that it doesn’t usually honor your self and often results in people re-creating old stories and victim circumstances because the underlying energy isn’t shifted.
Forgiveness is not about condoning what someone has done. It’s about releasing ourselves from the story of the transgression and setting ourselves free to define ourselves not by what “crimes” we may have survived, but by our authentic identity.
I attended an Abraham Hicks Meetup group a few years back. I remember the third time I attended the group we were invited by the leader to go around the circle of attendees and introduce ourselves. The third woman who spoke, introduced herself as a survivor of childhood incest.
It was fascinating to me that every person after that enthusiastically introduced themselves as survivors of different sorts of victim situations such as incest, rape, bankruptcy, infidelity, etc. Once someone opened the door to “story-telling”, everyone had a story to tell.
To be honest with you, I never went back to the group. It wasn’t that I didn’t appreciate that these people had endured and survived terrible things, but it was energetically challenging to sit in a room of people who seemed to still be so tied to the story.
If you define yourself as a survivor, there is, by definition, something terrible that you have endured and that you probably were victimized by. Survivors are still tied to their association with the transgression.
As long as you continue to tie yourself to the story, the energy of the story perpetuates itself. And while the lessons of the story were probably quite catalytic in your own personal evolution, the actual event is over. If you choose to hang on to the story instead of the lessons and the blessings, you run the risk, by virtue of focus and attention, of re-creating similar circumstances over and over again.
Haven’t you ever wondered how it is that some people just seem to attract the same kinds of tragedies again and again? Perhaps there is a need for cutting the ties to the story and truly forgiving the situation…
You can immediately end these cycles and create something new and different when you stop looking at the past and stand clearly in this current moment, recognizing that this moment is the only moment that matters in shaping your future and redefining yourself.
The past is over. And only determines your future if you choose to let it.
Personally, I prefer the term “Thriver” rather than survivor. I am a Life Thriver, plain and simple.
Of course, it feels good to let go of being a victim of any sort. But there is another important reason to release any victim stories from your consciousness.
It’s important for the planet.
We are representatives of the energy we want to see on the planet. (For more information on this, scroll down and read about the four stages of evolution in consciousness.) When you open your newspaper, turn on the TV or read your CNN webpage on your computer, notice the headlines. Ninety-nine percent of the time, there is some terrible headline that involves someone doing something to someone or groups of people being victimized by natural disasters or catastrophes of some sort.
When you really understand the mechanics of consciousness, you realize that the projection of our collective consciousness, the sum total of our thoughts and beliefs, create our collective planetary experience.
We create reality and on a global level, we co-create our world.
What we think, how we behave, our thoughts and our consciousness is added to the thoughts, emotions, beliefs and actions of others to create a consistent projected collective reality.
We are all unique pieces to a giant puzzle. When your piece of the whole is carrying the energy of being victimized or victim consciousness of any kind, you are adding to the victim consciousness of the whole.
Now, before we go any further, this is not blame or chastisement. I am simply pointing out that we are responsible for what we put into the world and what we project into the collective consciousness.
If we want to live in a world without victimization, then we have to eliminate victim consciousness in our own personal consciousness.
While this may sound big and obvious, you have to also be aware of the sneaky places where victim consciousness creeps in…victim energy can be insidious.
Think about this. In your outer reality, you are responsible for the creation of every experience.
Yup. Every single experience. It’s Universal Law.
So, for example, if you believe that your business is not doing as well as it could be right now because of the economy, you are engaging in victim consciousness. You are not a victim of the economy. You are simply aligned with a belief that the economy is bad and you are manifesting that into your reality.
If you believe you “can’t” do something because of any outer circumstance, including shifts in energy on the planet, karma and the old standby, “It’s just not God’s will.” Remember that you are not a victim of shifts in energy, karma or even God’s will. (God doesn’t want you to be a victim.)
I invite you to examine your beliefs on a deeper level and see if you have any beliefs that may be keeping you locked into a victim position.
Some questions to ask yourself that may give you clues to hidden victim consciousness might be:
Are there any things you feel resentful of or circumstance that feel like they are “not fair”?
Do you have stories about your life that you retell often to the point where it almost feels scripted?
Are they any places in your consciousness where you define yourself as a survivor?
Are there any creations in your life that make you feel like you are a loser of some kind?
Do you have excuses about why you aren’t experiencing the success or results you intend?
Are there any people or circumstance that you feel resentful of or trapped by?
Fill in the blank: If only ____________________________________ hadn’t happened, I’d be ____________________________________________________.
This is just a start. Give yourself the gift of taking an inventory of your consciousness and “untie” the ties that bind you into victimhood!
Enjoy THRIVING!!!
Love,
Karen
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